The Unseen Bond: A Complete Guide to Soul Ties
Soul ties are an anomaly. They can be amazing to the point where you feel as if nothing could ever go wrong in your life. But on the other end of the spectrum, unhealthy soul ties can leave you feeling drained and depressed.
Furthermore, some people don’t even know they have a soul tie with someone. While they may be experiencing all the symptoms, it’s easy to mistake this feeling for infatuation.
Have you ever heard of soul ties? If not, get ready to learn all you need to know about this powerful bond that can be made between two people.
What are Soul Ties?
A soul tie sounds like something straight out of a fiction novel. But what is it, really?
Ultimately, there is no definitive definition for this term. But if you were to explain it to someone, the best explanation would be: a soul tie is a deep-rooted spiritual or emotional connection that develops between two people. Depending on the type of soul tie, this could happen after they’ve had intercourse, or even after meeting for the first time.
Furthermore, some soul ties can make you feel amazing, whereas others can be draining.
How is a Soul Tie Formed?
A soul tie can be formed in a variety of different ways. For example, when you marry someone, you will immediately form a soul tie. Namely, this type of soul tie is called a godly soul tie.
Another way to form a soul tie is through a sexual relationship. If you have a sexual relationship with someone you are not married to, this is known as an ungodly soul tie. Your tie will have been formed through intercourse.
You can also form a soul tie with a close friend, relative, or even an acquaintance if your relationship progresses. Essentially, all of these relationships can end up forming either a godly or ungodly soul tie, as well as a healthy and unhealthy one.
This will all depend on the commitments, agreements, vows, and intentions.
Soul Ties in the Bible: A Brief Overview
You won’t find the exact term “soul tie” in the bible. Instead, the bible speaks of souls being intertwined, of two people becoming one in the flesh, etc.
Although soul ties can serve many functions, the simplest way to describe them would be to say that they are two souls that are tied together in the spiritual realm.
There are also two sides to them. For example, a soul tie between a married couple will draw both sides together like a magnet. This is called a godly soul tie. On the other end of the spectrum, some soul ties can result in one party being abused by the other. This is called an ungodly soul tie.
In this article, you will get a clear picture of what a godly soul tie can look like, versus what an ungodly soul tie can feel like.
Can Soul Ties be One-Sided?
Essentially, yes, soul ties can be one-sided. This tie is formed when you have a type of relationship with someone where you are the only party experiencing the symptoms of a soul tie.
You can feel a strong one-sided connection to another person on an emotional, spiritual, and physical level. In this case, the other person will be unaffected, and at most times, you will feel as if you’re the only person holding your relationship together.
Similarly, you can develop this kind of tie with someone you haven’t even met in person. For example, this kind of tie usually develops when you meet someone online. You can spend your time speaking with someone online and telling them your deepest secrets.
After a while, you could start to feel as if you’re developing a meaningful bond with them. You may even mistake this bond for love. The fact that you haven’t come face to face could cloud your judgment and make you think that the other person feels the same way about you.
Unfortunately, this could end up creating a one-sided soul tie that’s detrimental to your well-being.
Another great example of a one-sided soul tie is the one you experience during a “friends with benefits” relationship with someone. In most cases, one person will develop strong feelings for the other party. These feelings will not be reciprocated.
Here are a few more things to consider.
1. One-sided Soul Tie Can Lead to Obsession
In some extreme cases, one party could develop an obsession with their soul tie. This can end up causing intense destruction to your well-being.
You can feel as if you can’t stop thinking about the other person. These feelings of entrapment will cloud your judgment, and you may feel as if you need them by your side at all times.
Things could get to the point where you can’t leave them regardless of whether or not your relationship is healthy. You could become so distracted that your job may suffer, and you won’t be able to navigate your everyday life.
2. It Could Cause Addiction
One-sided soul ties could even cause addiction. If you feel as if you cannot make the other person feel as strongly about you as you want them to, you could end up turning to alcohol or drugs. This is essentially the act of switching one addiction for another.
3. It Leaves You Susceptible to Manipulation and Deception
If you’re experiencing a one-sided soul tie, you are likely to fall victim to emotional or mental manipulation. This can be quite dangerous since your feelings towards the other person will make it hard for you to believe that they could be capable of manipulation.
Furthermore, you will be easily deceived by this person. The best example of this kind of deception is if you’ve met them online, but not in person. You will likely believe that they are exactly the person they say they are when in reality, this is not the case.
Do Soul Ties Affect Men?
Although there is a difference in the way men and women go about looking for a soul mate, the truth is that soul ties affect both men and women equally.
While men mostly tend to look for a woman that will, first of all, meet their expectations look-wise, women usually look for a man they can connect with emotionally. Obviously, this isn’t a rule, and there are plenty of instances where men and women will take a different approach. However, the point is that men can experience soul ties as well.
But there is one thing you should keep in mind. Typically, if a man misses you or is thinking about you, it doesn’t mean he will call you. This is often not the case with women.
When a woman misses someone, whether it’s their husband, friend, relative, etc., they will usually contact that person. Men, on the other hand, will often talk themselves out of doing so.
Ultimately, that doesn’t mean he’s not thinking about you, but rather that he is trying to appear strong.
How Do You Know If You Have a Soul Tie?
After reading about them, hopefully, you now understand what soul ties are. But how do you know if you have a soul tie? What are the symptoms, are there any signs you should look for?
This next part will help clear up these questions.
1. Soul Ties Make You Feel a Deep Connection to Someone
Do you feel as if you have a profound connection with someone? Do you consider this person to be something more than a soul mate? If so, you likely have a soul connection to them.
You could feel as if they are the most important person in the world to you, and that you cannot imagine a life without them.
2. They Bring Out Strong Reactions
No two ties are alike, but all soul ties have a level of intensity about them. The thing about a soul tie is that it can make every feeling seem amplified. Although that may sound good, keep in mind that all feelings are amplified ㅡ the good and the bad.
For example, when you feel passionate about this person, you will feel it with all your being. Similarly, when you get mad at them, you’ll be furious.
3. A Soul Tie Makes a Person Feel Familiar
Have you ever met someone and had a feeling you’ve known them your entire life? That’s what it feels like when you have a soul tie.
You may look at this person and think that they’ve been in your life before, and you will likely act as if you can share anything and everything with them.
4. Soul Ties Make a Relationship Seem Unique
Feeling as if your relationship is one-of-a-kind is yet another sign of a soul tie. If you are experiencing feelings you’ve never had before and doing things that are completely new to you, and out of your comfort zone, you have a soul tie.
5. They Make You Feel Complete
When you have a soul tie with someone, you will feel as if they complete you. Not only that, but in some cases, you will feel as if you cannot exist without the other person being a part of your life. While this may feel amazing when it’s mutual, it can be quite a soul-crushing experience if the feeling is one-sided.
6. You Will Feel as if You Depend on Someone
When you have an overall feeling as if you depend on someone so much that you cannot function without them in your life, you are experiencing an unhealthy soul tie. If this is the case, you should immediately begin the process of breaking your soul tie. If you don’t do so, there is a strong possibility that you will end up feeling broken and veer into a depressive state.
Different Kinds of Soul Ties
Most people tend to believe that there is one type of soul tie ㅡ the one you form with a person after having intercourse. However, this is far from true. There are, in fact, four types of soul ties that you can develop:
- Emotional soul ties
- Physical soul ties
- Spiritual soul ties
- Social soul ties
Furthermore, soul ties can also be divided into two categories:
- Godly soul ties
- Ungodly soul ties
Ultimately, emotional, physical, spiritual, and social soul ties can be either godly or ungodly, which will be further explained in this section.
Godly Soul Ties & Ungodly Soul Ties
When it comes to godly and ungodly soul ties, the thing that determines them is the reason that connected you and the person you formed the tie with.
1. Emotional Soul Ties
Godly emotional soul ties are meant to encourage you. Not only that, but they should protect and guide you through trying times. For example, when you form a godly emotional soul tie with someone, you will stay by their side no matter what.
When you’re going through a difficult phase with them, you will put all your energy into saving your relationship rather than just walking away. You will want to hold their hand and give them strength even if you don’t have any.
Ungodly emotional soul ties occur when someone decides to manipulate you into loving them. Ultimately, they will do anything to dissuade you from leaving them, no matter how toxic your relationship may be.
The people who form this type of soul tie are typically doing it for all the wrong reasons. However, in some cases, the person may be doing it subconsciously. Regardless of whether or not they know what they’re doing, an ungodly soul tie will make it difficult for you to leave the person you have this type of tie with.
Every time you try to leave, they will bring up all the hardships you’ve endured together. They will try to convince you that no one can love you as much as they do. In the end, no matter how toxic the relationship, you’ll likely continue the relationship because of your loyalty towards this person.
2. Physical Soul Ties
Godly physical soul ties come in a variety of different forms. They are ties that you create:
• with family members
• during the consummation of your marriage
• when showing love and affection towards a loved one
Ungodly physical soul ties are created as a result of having sex outside of marriage. Staying in a toxic relationship with someone is unhealthy (to say the least). However, if you’ve formed a physical soul tie with this person, you probably can’t help it.
You will start to make up ridiculous excuses for them and use loyalty and love as your main reason for staying with them.
In fact, a person in this type of situation will often feel physical pain when they try to leave. And even in cases where the person manages to break things off, there is still a good chance they will get pulled back in.
3. Spiritual Soul Ties
Godly spiritual soul ties are meant to impart wisdom, knowledge, and skill. When you form this sort of soul tie, you and the person you have this tie with will feel fulfilled on a deeper level.
Ungodly spiritual soul ties are quite damaging. Although you may feel as if you and the other person share the same passion, this is not the case. Someone may come into your life and seem as if they have your best interest in mind, but will only use you and disregard your needs afterward.
4. Social Soul Ties
Godly social soul ties can be formed through a friendship or other shared social groups.
Regardless of whether or not you’re a loner, the fact is that everyone needs someone they can connect with. Humans are, after all, social creatures.
The main purpose of a godly social soul tie is to have someone who will look after us as much as we look after and care for them. It should help us live on earth in harmony.
Ungodly social soul ties, on the other hand, can be formed if you connect with someone who isn’t looking out for your best interest, but rather has an agenda of their own. A great example of this is hate groups. The only reason people create hate groups is to cause division and chaos.
You can also develop an ungodly or godly social soul tie with someone you work with, or an acquaintance if your formal relationship grows into a friendship or something deeper.
Unhealthy Soul Ties & Healthy Soul Ties
Now that you know what godly and ungodly soul ties are and what types of symptoms you can experience from them, it’s equally important to understand what healthy and unhealthy soul ties are.
For starters, a one-sided soul tie is unhealthy.
Furthermore, any type of soul tie that makes you feel bad about yourself is unhealthy.
Healthy soul ties, on the other hand, should make you feel happy, elated, and loved. Both parties should feel fulfilled and content with their relationship.
How to Break Soul Ties?
If you’ve come to learn that you are in an unhealthy soul tie, then your only chance of returning to normal life is to break your tie. But how can you do that?
Below are a few suggestions to help you on your journey.
1. Becoming Aware of Your Unhealthy Soul Tie
As soon as you become aware of your unhealthy soul tie, you’ve already come one step closer to breaking it.
First of all, you need to grab a piece of paper and write down all the negative impacts you’ve felt from your soul tie.
If you’ve formed a deep relationship with someone, it’s safe to say they’ve become an integral part of your life. Now it’s time to let go of them, and move on.
Ask yourself what connected you to that person in the first place. Was it a physical attraction, or an emotional one?
Once you understand what was keeping you connected, you can start rationalizing your feelings.
However, keep in mind that you will first have to acknowledge that what you are experiencing is not heartbreak. You are not in love with this person. Once you’ve accepted this, you can move onto the next step.
Asking God to help you break your unhealthy soul tie will help you overcome it faster. God will guide you down the right path, and help you heal.
Incorporating a daily prayer is the best way to get closer to God, and feel His power shine through you.
In all honesty, breaking a soul tie can be quite painful, which is why you will need all the help and support you can get.
3. Forgive the Other Person
Once you start the process of breaking your soul tie, you will need to practice forgiveness. However difficult it may seem, if you want to fully heal you will need to forgive the other person.
Remind yourself that no one owes you happiness. You and you alone are responsible for making yourself feel joy.
4. Forgive Yourself
Next, forgive yourself. It’s easy to start blaming yourself for something that’s out of your control. You may start to replay certain situations in your head that you could have handled better.
Instead, tell yourself that it wasn’t your fault and that things will get better from now on.
5. Say Goodbye to Your Soul Tie
Release your soul tie, and remove them from your life forever. If you hold onto even a glimmer of hope that you’ll get back together, you’ll never break free.
Delete their contact, and throw away anything you may have gotten from them while you were together. Doing so will help you forget them and move on with your life faster.
Soul ties can create a feeling of euphoria like you’ve never experienced before. When two people have a mutual soul tie, it can create a sensation of pure happiness. But when the soul tie is one-sided, the experience is entirely different.
While it may be difficult to break away from a one-sided soul tie, it’s far from impossible. It will simply take more effort on your part as well as some help from God.
The bottom line is that if you feel the symptoms of a soul tie, the first thing you need to do is establish whether or not it is a healthy or unhealthy kind of tie. In case it’s unhealthy, you should take steps to immediately remove yourself from this type of relationship.
On the other hand, if you’re experiencing a healthy soul tie, all you need to do is enjoy the feeling of utter bliss!