Time to Move On: 14 Signs She Doesn’t Love You Anymore
Love is a powerful force that can fill your heart to the brim and make you feel like you’re on top of the world! But, love can also be fragile and disintegrate for seemingly no reason at all.
If you feel as if your relationship with your girlfriend or wife isn’t all it used to be, perhaps there’s a good reason for this. There are, in fact, some signs she doesn’t love you anymore.
#1. She’s Not Talking to You as Much
Sharing is caring, and not only when it comes to physical objects but with communication as well.
In fact, good communication is an essential part of any healthy relationship. Your partner should be like your best friend, so it’s normal to share anything and everything with them. If you’ve recently noticed that she’s sharing less and less information with you throughout the day, there’s probably something wrong.
For example, if she used to share work gossip with you, but now all she has to say is that “work was fine” or “there’s nothing worth sharing happening at work”, that can mean she’s not interested in communicating with you anymore.
But you also have to consider other aspects as well. Perhaps there’s actually something wrong at work? Maybe she’s having a hard time getting through her assignments, and that’s why she’s not interested in speaking to you about work.
Ultimately, if there’s only one specific subject she doesn’t want to discuss with you anymore, there’s a good chance it has nothing to do with her feelings for you.
On the other hand, if she doesn’t want to talk to you about anything, and you’re the one who’s now doing all the communicating, then she’s likely not happy in the relationship anymore.
#2. She Doesn’t Argue With You Anymore
Most people think that the more two people argue, the less they love each other. But, this isn’t exactly true.
The opposite of love is not hate; it’s actually indifference. Throughout your relationship, you’re bound to argue about things from time to time. Namely, these arguments can be about trivialities such as not putting your dirty clothes in the laundry basket or forgetting to take out the trash in the morning.
These types of disagreements shouldn’t be taken as criticism. On the contrary! They are a sign that your significant other still cares enough about you that she wants to improve your life together.
People who don’t care will often leave things as-is, and bide their time until they can get situated in another home. So, if you’ve stopped having those occasional small arguments, instead of being relieved, think about what’s changed in your relationship.
Obviously, there is a difference between arguing with someone and pointing out their faults, which you may soon come to understand.
#3. She Keeps Pointing Out Your Faults
When two people start a relationship, it’s normal to have the initial blissful faze where neither party can do no wrong. But, as time goes by, most couples start to notice some things that they don’t exactly love about their significant other.
For example, your partner may have loved your dark humor at the beginning of your relationship. But now, she can’t stand your jokes. Or, perhaps you have some quirks that she considered adorable, but now she keeps criticizing them.
What’s more, if she’s constantly complaining about you behind your back, to friends or family members, she probably isn’t in love with you anymore.
But before you jump to any conclusions, it’s important that you reflect on your actions a bit. Is her criticism justified? Are you acting the same now as you were at the beginning of your relationship? Or, have you changed in any way?
It’s easy to get annoyed when someone is constantly bringing up your faults. But, if you’re the one who has changed over time, then maybe it’s time to think about how you’ve been treating her instead of thinking that you’re completely blameless.
#4. She Doesn’t Want to Spend Time With You
How were things at the beginning of your relationship? Were the two of you inseparable? Did she want to spend all of her free time with you and no one else?
Typically, couples who are in love will put their partners before their friends when it comes to planning a night out or generally making plans for the day. As mentioned, if you’re in a healthy relationship, then your significant other should see you as their best friend who they want to spend all their time with.
If she suddenly stops wanting to go out with you, or even sit around your home with you, this is a sign that something is wrong in your relationship. But, there are two possible reasons for such a shift.
The first thing that usually happens throughout any relationship is that one person wants to go out and have fun, while the other person would rather stay in. If she’s bored with your regular routine, then it’s possible that she’ll stop asking you to go out with her and call a friend instead.
Obviously, there should always be room for a compromise in any relationship. So, consider your behavior before deciding that she doesn’t love you anymore. Are you willing to change your routine even slightly for her? Or, are you set on your ways?
On the other hand, if she just suddenly starts making plans with her friends without offering so much as an invitation, it may be because she’s lost interest in you. Moreover, if she keeps refusing to go out with you, it’s likely because she doesn’t want to spend time with you anymore, and it’s just a matter of time before she breaks up with you.
#5. She Openly Flirts With Other People
Regardless of whether they say they have a “flirty” personality, flirting with other people is not appropriate behavior when you’re in a relationship.
Some people like to brush this behavior off by saying that it’s “harmless” and that “it doesn’t mean anything”. However, this is simply not true.
If your partner doesn’t hesitate to flirt with people even when you’re around, who’s to say how she acts when she’s alone? What’s more, how does her behavior make you feel?
Obviously, you’re bound to feel hurt that the person you love is flirting with someone. And, if she loved you back, she should take your emotions into consideration.
Typically, when women do this, it’s a sign that they’ve lost feelings for their partner. She could be trying to get you to break up with her. Either way, it’s a signal that your relationship is at its end.
But again, you always have to consider your actions as well, before coming to a conclusion. How do you act with other women? Do you like to flirt with them? Perhaps she’s just trying to prove a point and show you how she feels?
It’s easy to see the bad in others, but it can be difficult to look at your own faults.
#6. She Doesn’t Want to Be Intimate With You
Your sex life is bound to change throughout the course of your relationship. In the beginning, things are more exciting, and you probably won’t be able to keep your hands off each other. But, as time goes by, you probably won’t have as much time or energy to keep up with your regular bedroom routine. This is completely normal.
However, if she suddenly doesn’t want to have sex with you at all, she may not be attracted to you anymore. Furthermore, if she stops hugging you, kissing you, and basically avoids any type of physical contact with you, then you have a right to be worried.
Essentially, it’s crucial to think about whether other aspects of your relationship have changed apart from your sex life. Do you feel less connected to her? Has she stopped opening up to you completely?
On the other hand, if she still likes to cuddle with you, and share intimate moments, then perhaps there’s another issue at hand. Maybe her schedule is so hectic that she feels exhausted at the end of the day? Or, maybe she doesn’t find herself attractive anymore?
There can be a number of things that are keeping her from being intimate with you. With that in mind, it’s best not to start worrying that she doesn’t love you anymore, and instead ask her if there’s something wrong. It’s possible that once you bring up the subject, she’ll feel relieved to talk about it, and you may end up resolving the issue together.
#7. She Doesn’t Show You Any Respect
For any relationship to work out, there needs to be mutual respect between both parties. You are both equal, and you should have equal responsibilities and rights.
When a partner suddenly stops showing any regard for the other person’s feelings and wishes, it means that they don’t care about them anymore.
For example, does she listen to what you tell her, or does she completely ignore you? If you express your wishes about something to her, does she even take them into consideration, or does she continue going about things her way?
When a woman doesn’t treat her significant other with respect, it means that she doesn’t care about them. You simply cannot love someone you don’t respect.
Also, think about your behavior toward her. Do you listen to everything she tells you, or do you just feign interest? The main point to remember is that if you aren’t showing her respect, she may just be mimicking your actions. Either way, it’s time for a change on one, or both ends.
#8. She Openly Tells You She Wants a Break
A break is just short for a break-up. If she tells you she wants to take a break, it’s because she’s trying to let you down easily. On her end, she’s just delaying the inevitable. What’s more, if you go along with her, you’ll likely never talk to her again.
It’s possible that she’s in love with someone else, and is looking for an excuse to see how it goes with that other person before breaking up with you. Or, she may just feel bad, and this is a way to spare your feelings for the moment.
Since you obviously can’t say “no” to her request, you can ask for an honest conversation. Tell her you’re willing to accept her proposal but only if she agrees to tell you her reasons for requesting a break.
Perhaps she feels like you’re the one who’s not interested in her anymore? Or, maybe she was expecting more from the relationship, and you failed to notice that?
Maybe she feels taken for granted? She might even be under the impression that asking for a break is the only way to get a reaction out of you.
All in all, it’s best to have a calm and collected conversation before agreeing to her request for a break. But, remember, sometimes a relationship just runs its course. If that’s the case, then there’s nothing you can do about it except split up.
#9. She’s Suddenly Making Lots of New Friends
She used to spend all of her free time with you, but now she seems to be hanging out with people you’ve never met before. What’s more, you’ve noticed that her new friends are both male and female, so you’re worried about what this could mean.
Essentially, there’s nothing wrong with making new friends. However, if she’s ditching you to spend all her free time with them, that could be a problem.
If you’re worried that something is wrong, ask her if you can go out with her and her friends. If she says yes, then perhaps she wasn’t inviting you before because she thought you would decline her offer. On the other hand, if she says no, don’t immediately start acting jealous. Instead, ask her why she doesn’t want you to go.
Ultimately, she will need to come up with a valid reason, and her reaction to your question will tell you a lot about how she feels.
If she can’t seem to come up with anything, then it’s simple: she doesn’t want you to meet her new friends. Maybe she’s hiding something from you, or perhaps she doesn’t want them to know she’s in a relationship?
Either way, keeping secrets is bound to ruin any relationship. So, it’s only a matter of time before she tells you she wants to break up.
#10. She Avoids Talking to You About the Future
When two people are in a long-term relationship, it’s normal to discuss the future. This can include talking about having kids, traveling the world, moving into a larger home, etc. Basically, anything that involves the couple.
Even during the beginning of the relationship, people will often make plans for the future. But, if you’ve noticed a shift in her behavior, more specifically, that she doesn’t want to talk about your future, you have a right to be concerned.
Although it’s not a rule, women often like to plan ahead more than men do. Where to go for the summer, whether they want to get married, do they want kids, etc.
If she suddenly stops talking about these matters with you, it may be because she doesn’t see a future with you in it.
On the other hand, maybe she keeps talking about things she’s planning on doing that don’t involve you? This could also be a sign that she’s trying to be more independent, and that she doesn’t want you by her side anymore.
If she does this, you can try to insert yourself into her plans, just to see her reaction. It’s also possible that she doesn’t want to burden you, so she simply excludes you from her plans.
But, if she comes up with an excuse about why you can’t come, perhaps it’s time to reflect on your relationship. What could have made her flip the switch so suddenly? Did you have a heated argument recently? Maybe you had a disagreement about something that wasn’t a big deal to you, but it was to her? The best way to find out the truth is to talk to her and get everything out in the open.
#11. She Doesn’t View Your Relationship as Serious Anymore
It started out as something that you thought was going to last forever. But, now it seems that she isn’t taking your relationship seriously anymore.
You can’t seem to get her to spend time with you, and when you do manage to talk to her, she doesn’t act as if she cares about anything you have to say. This could be because she doesn’t want to pursue a serious relationship anymore.
She may have told you she loves you in the past, and that she wants to spend every waking minute with you. But, now you can see that she doesn’t feel the same way.
Typically, when this happens, it’s because she wasn’t in love with you in the first place, but rather infatuated. Maybe she initially thought that there would be something more between you, but has now come to realize that she doesn’t want to be with you anymore.
#12. She Keeps Trying to Change You
Not every couple has the same interests. In fact, most couples have completely different personalities and outlooks on life. While this is perfectly understandable, it’s also normal to try and find common ground.
For example, if she’s not a Star Wars fan, yet you have every imaginable Funko Pop from the franchise, this shouldn’t be a problem for either one of you. You have an interest that she doesn’t want to partake in, and that’s alright. However, she shouldn’t make you stop pursuing your interest just because she’s not into it.
Furthermore, if you like to dress a certain way, yet she thinks your style needs improvement, it’s ok for her to give you some styling tips. However, it’s up to you to decide if you want to incorporate them, and she shouldn’t get mad if you don’t.
Ultimately, she shouldn’t try to change your habits and interests just because she doesn’t like the same things you do. Loving someone means accepting them for who they are, faults and all. If she keeps trying to mold you into something you’re not, it’s likely because she doesn’t love you.
#13. She Doesn’t Ask You About Your Life
Typically, when you’re talking to someone, it’s polite to ask them about their life. For example, if you haven’t seen your friend in a while, you’ll likely ask them how thing’s have been going. It’s also the same for someone you see more often. But instead of asking them about their life in general, you’ll probably ask them about how their day went.
Obviously, this should be the same when it comes to your significant other. You should both take an interest in each other’s lives outside of the relationship.
With that in mind, does she ever ask you how you are and how your day went? Or, does she just keep talking about herself all the time? Maybe you haven’t noticed her disinterest before, but, once you do, you won’t be able to unsee it.
Also, consider this: does she actually listen to you when you’re sharing about yourself? Or, does it seem like she’s just waiting for you to finish talking so she can change the subject?
If she’s not interested in learning about what’s going on in your life, and you in general, this is a sign that she doesn’t have deep feelings for you.
#14. You Feel Like She Doesn’t Love You Anymore
If you have a gut feeling that something is wrong, don’t ignore it. Sometimes, everything can seem perfectly fine, but you still feel like something is missing, or has changed in your relationship.
It could be something as small as not adding a heart emoji to her messages. If she used to do this all the time and has suddenly stopped, it’s normal to wonder what caused this change in her attitude.
But of course, instead of confronting her out of the blue, it’s best if you just come out and ask her if there’s anything wrong. Namely, if there is something wrong, you’ll probably be able to tell by how she reacts to your question. If she starts acting strange, your gut feeling is right — there is something wrong.
Hopefully, though, she’ll just laugh it off and explain why the sudden change.
As was mentioned, the best thing you can do if you’re afraid that your significant other doesn’t love you anymore is to talk to her. Try to get everything out in the open. In the end, your worries may have been unwarranted.